There is a myth about the HOW versus the WHAT (Goals)
Too many people think they can control the HOW and the WHAT at the same time.
Especially the famous micromanagers who tell their subordinates WHAT to do and HOW they must perform.
You cannot control BOTH your WHATS (Your Goals) and HOWS, the paths or methods to get there.
If you control the HOW you lose control over the WHAT.
If you control the WHAT, your WHAT will dictate the best HOW.
Control your Goals (The WHATS) to discover the best Paths (The HOWS).
Yet far too many people think they can control both the HOW and the WHAT, and they take such interest in controlling their HOW’S in life they never reach their WHAT’S (Their Goals).
Examples of where controlling the HOW looses control over the the What (Goals)
The famous scene in the Wizard of Oz exemplifies the importance of controlling the WHAT, versus the HOW (Goals) the destination, where the group upon reaching an intersection with 5 roads
Asked the Wizard: “Wizard oh Wizard which road should we take.”
The Wizard asked; “Where do you want to go?”
They answered: “We do not know.”
The Wizard responded; “Then it does not matter which road you take.”
The Wizard showed that the HOW versus the WHAT (Goals) did not matter
In addition, many people focus their energies on being more organized, and efficient when they have NO destination or NO WHAT. When asked WHAT they want to achieve with being more organized, they rarely can respond. So being more organized becomes more about appearance than purpose.
For example, being more organized to achieving the WHAT of feeding 4 young children a healthy breakfast in the morning before school each day is different than giving a PowerPoint presentation to the boss to sell your idea, which is different than rebuilding an engine to run very smoothly in your antique car, which is different than enjoying a great 5 day ski vacation in February during school break with your 2 school aged children and your spouse.
Yet we are taught in school to focus on the HOW versus the WHAT (Goals) by being bombarded with and judged only on HOW we are to do things with little if any consideration for WHAT we want to accomplish or where we want to go.
Or as one quote states: “A journey (and life is a journey) without chosen destinations (Goals, The WHATS) becomes nothing more than an aimless wandering.”
Most people exist in life bouncing around on aimless wanderings.
Take Control of your WHATS (Goals) to discover the best HOWS
So the solution to not letting the HOW’S control your life is to TAKE control of your WHATS, your goals, your chosen destinations. Then letting your WHATS determine the best methods, the best HOWS to take you from where you are to where you want to go, your WHATS.
Another example. A person living in Kansas city asked for help to design the best vacation for his wife and 2 children ages 8 and 11 and insisted that they drive their new fancy family van a maximum of 200 miles per day and stop before 5:00 PM daily to rest. But upon seeking the conditions of their most desired vacation they included being on the ocean beach in a very nice hotel with warm clear water to surf, and enjoy numerous water sports. It also included experiencing temperatures no higher than 84 degrees nor lower than 74 degrees, be English speaking, and have access to restaurants and tropical jungles nearby. Of course he described Waikiki Beach in Honolulu Hawaii. Driving in their van 200 miles each day would not get them to Waikiki Beach. The destination dictates the how, which would most likely include taking an air flight from Kansas City to Honolulu without driving their van 200 miles each day.
Focus on discovering and defining your personal WHATS, your own chosen goals, and let your chosen goals show the best methods the best HOWS to achieve them. Achieving your goals is much easier than you think when you follow this method.