LIFE BALANCE IS: That place where you enjoy and thrive in all three of your lives simultaneously, without guilt and without internal conflicts.
Your work life. Most of us spend a majority of our time and effort at work. You gain a lot more from work than you recognize. You produce financial rewards, but you also generate many other personal rewards as well. You gain feelings of accomplishment, of belonging, of acceptance, of winning, of competition, of gratitude, of appreciation, of respect, of status, and of contributing.
Your personal life. This involves your personal health, your relationship with a higher being, if at all, your hobbies, and your personal integrity.
Your family life. This involves the relationships you have with the blood relatives you want to keep, and any others you allow inside our inner circle. You are the only gatekeeper to the people you want to let inside your inner circle and how far you will let them in.
When you are able to consciously and subconsciously align your thoughts, your inner soul, and your activities with all three of your lives, one at a time. So you are in the moment for each one, with clarity and confidence.
When you are experience “being in the zone” of life. You experience virtually NO GUILT, NO CONFLICTS, and virtually NO STRESS.
The reason life balance has been so elusive to so many people is because they do NOT know themselves well enough to generate the conditions that will produce life balance for them. Rarely do people know and understand the real life conditions they will want to generate life balance. So they go through life in cofusion, hoping that through chance or trial and error they might happen onto life balance.
As you can imagine, each of these lives will attract your interests and can create various demands on your time, resources, and energy.
In fact, most people would not recognize life balance if it was given to them. Reason. The greatest mystery in the world is ourselves. Most people live in confusion about what they really want, dislike, and their own boundaries.
This explains why so many people who have received vast wealth and freedom, still suffer the conflicts and stresses of not having life balance; when, it appears they could easily do so. They do not know WHO they really are!
1. The secret to creating real life balance is to unravel the mystery of yourself first and completely. Once you discover and understand the five core ingredients within you that govern your life, you will have unraveled the mystery of you. You now KNOW who you really are! Then, you can easily and confidently choose to focus on the life you want at the time you choose, without feeling pressured by outside forces. These five core ingredients are:
•Your passions. Everyone has a host of different passions within them, that have been lurking, and waiting to come out all their lives.
•Your Self-Imposed Obstacles. These are the things you dislike doing. Why is not important and not investigated.
•Your Beliefs and Values. Some people call this spirituality, as opposed to religion. These are your boundaries, your integrity points.
•Your talents. Every person on the earth received a bundle of different talents at birth. They have different types, different forms, and different degrees of talents. But few people really know even a small percentage of their real talents.
•Your priorities. What are the most important things to you in the clear order of first, second, third, etc. Priorities are comparable and the clear rating of them is important.
2. You Create conditions of your life to suit YOU that will allow you to fulfill your passions and priorities, follow your beliefs and values, maximize your talents, and avoid as many of your self-imposed obstacles as you can.
You minimize adjusting and changing yourself to conform to the conditions and expectations imposed on you, unless of course that is what you really love to do. Life balance will not come to you. Will not happen by chance. And cannot be given to you or inherited. You will want to create the conditions of life balance to suit you.
The reason you hire a life coach is to actually achieve life balance. The reason your coach coaches’ you is to make darn sure you do. Your coaches’ job is to coach himself or herself out of a job, by assuring that you create life balance on your terms.
The life coaching process was designed specifically to assist clients to achieve their coachable goals, and achieving life balance is one of the most popular coachable goals. Many coaching clients have achieved life balance through life coaching much easier and more completely than they thought possible.
Achieving life balance can also be done on your own, but it will take lots of time, energy and money. Or you can go straight to real life balance much quicker with a life coach.