Setting Achievable New Years Resolutions
By Embracing The Future
By popular demand we are reprinting an edited version of our New Years Resolutions blog. We hope you enjoy it.
This is the time of year where many people create their list of New Years Resolutions. Yet, how many of your new years resolutions in 2017 did you achieve? Studies have shown that the average person abandons his or her new years resolutions within 6 weeks.
Setting new years resolutions is very important! Otherwise you will fall into this rut: “A Journey Without a Chosen Destination Becomes an Aimless Wandering.” And Life is a Journey
Setting new years resolutions will be fun. You will greatly improve your chances of actually accomplishing your new years resolutions if you follow the steps outlined below.
The Key Steps to Achieving your New Years Resolutions and Have Fun Too!
1. Decide first what your most desirable destinations will be for you throughout the year. Include places you want to reach in your career, in your personal life and/or in your family life.
For example, you might want to become a more successful and productive leader, you might want to improve your tennis game, or you might want to improve your bonds and relationship with your spouse and/or children, or you might want to get the best career for you.
Normally you might set 1 to about 3 Life Destinations, and they will be long range in nature. But you can always change them or add to them at will.
2. Set Destinations that mean the most to YOU, and will provide YOU immense rewards when completed. Set destinations that give YOU great pleasure and provide YOU wonderful benefits. Do not set destinations because you should or to meet the goals of someone else. Make them YOUR own destinations that have clear purposes for completing them that provide you strong personal rewards.
You want to be genuinely passionate about reaching your destinations. For example, you will want to deeply passionate about becoming the leader you always wanted to be, or to achieve the level of tennis your really want, because you enjoy playing tennis so much.
3. Set goals that help advance you towards your desired destinations. These can be your New Years Resolutions if you want.
For example setting the goal of achieving a weight between 158 and 165 pounds because this is your ideal weight range to be able to play tennis at your best.
You set these goals BECAUSE they achieve intermediate steps along your purposeful life journey towards your most desirable destinations. The clear reasons you have to achieve your chosen weight ranges will provide the strong and continuous motivation to actually reach your intermediate goals.
That way when you are alone with a luscious piece of cake (loaded with calories) you will consider the reason you want to reach the 158 pound target. You will put your passion for tennis, as more important than the brief pleasure the cake will bring. And you will gladly avoid eating even a bite.
4. Turn your New Years Resolutions into positive-only future goals. Set goals that have a clear point of accomplishment, so you will know when they have been achieved.
For example, set the goal of reducing your weight to 158 pounds, as opposed to just losing weight. Or set a goal to have the outside of your home painted to improve its appearance and protect it from the elements.
5. Commit yourself to achieving your goals. If you are not committed to achieving a goal, either change it or drop it. Changing the goal to gain your full commitment is much better for you.
Dropping a goal because you are not committed is not a failure or a cause to be disappointed. It is a very practical and responsible thing to do. You will release more energy and time to accomplish the more important goals for which you ARE committed to completing.
As an example you may decide that dropping your weight to 165 pounds gets you into the right playing shape to excel at tennis, and adjusting your goal accordingly will be the smart thing to do. This way you fulfilled your real destination to improve your tennis.
6. Separate your goals into “Internal” and “External” Goals
“Internal” Goals include goals that require you to improve and grow as a person to achieve them. We call these “Coachable Goals.” They require you to focus internally on you to become far more self aware of your passions, priorities, talents, integrity and dislikes. Lowering your weight level of 158 pounds, or to become the leader you have always wanted to be, or change into your best career are internal goals. They will all be much easier to achieve than you think, once you have discovered your true inner motivations and inner limiting conditions.
You will grow exponentially as you discover your own true passions and priorities, your own integrity points, your own hidden talents and the things you dislike doing.
As an example, once you discover how passionate you are about improving your tennis game your strength of purpose to drop your weight will drive you to achieve that goal. Goals achieved!
“External” Goals include goals that do not require you to improve or grow as a person to achieve them. These are externally completed activities. Some examples would be to have your house painted, or have your car detailed. With external goals, you engage others to perform the activities for you, and involve information that is external to you. For example you might want to engage a painter to paint your house.
Get the Best and Right help to Achieve Both your Internal and External Goals
1. Connect with someone you trust to assist you to complete your “Internal” Goals. Growing and improving as a person is not a self-help process. Although the huge “Self-Help” industry would claim otherwise.
You will need assistance. Unraveling the mystery of you requires you to connect with someone, who is trained, experienced and dedicated to assisting you to discover and reveal you to you, with total objectively, without any manipulation and with complete confidentiality. You will want this person to be your partner, to care enough about you to be very honest and trustworthy, to keep you accountable, and to assist you to accomplish your Internal Goals.
One of the best sources for connecting with the right person to assist you to accomplish your “Internal” Goals is to find your ideal life coach. In fact, the reason you engage your own life coach is to actually achieve your “Internal” goals (Coachable Goals)
2. Consider getting experts to accomplish some of your “External” Goals for you. Since you are not required to change or improve as a person to accomplish these goals, you can have experts accomplish them for you. Normally, they will probably complete them better than you would. Picking the right people and conditions of achieving these goals will be your focus, and once done, goals achieved!
For example to have the house painted, consider hiring an expert house painter to paint it for you.
Once you actually achieve your New Years Resolutions
1. Personally celebrate the achievement of each goal (New Years Resolution). Rejoice with someone who cares about you and who understands the importance of each goal. Do so immediately when the goal has been completed.
For example, celebrate reaching 158 pounds or your final chosen weight, with someone who understands what it meant to you. Celebrate the painting of your house, even though it was done by your expert house painter.
2. Add new goals to your list. You will want to add new goals (New Years Resolutions) as you complete old ones. Or you will want to adjust the goals you have to meet new circumstances. You will achieve your goals much faster and more completely as you get into the hang of the above steps.
It is critical that you create newer, more important and more valuable goals on a continuous basis. Turn your New Years Resolutions into All Year Goals. By creating new and more valuable and more exciting goals you continue your successful life journey towards your chosen destinations in your life to give it meaning, purpose, and fun. You will be celebrating your feelings of accomplishment, your successes, more frequently and these successes will create the culture and attitude of more successes.
Do not wait until the beginning of each year to plot and achieve your most important achievements! Make goal settings and achievements a year round successful and enjoyable process. Have fun with your New Years Resolutions and enjoy the rewards of actually achieving them.
Great blog post.
Steve Johnson says
I completely agree with The Coach Connection’s advise regarding setting life-time and shorter term goals for oneself. Thanks to Bill and my Coach Connection’s coach for helping me understand how to do this in the most efficient and effective manner!