And How To Eliminate Procrastination
Procrastination is defined as: “Putting off or avoiding doing things you feel you “should” be doing.” Procrastination creates guilt and generates unnecessary stress.
Procrastination Is Governed by What You Think You “SHOULD Be Doing!
“Should” is one of the most self-destructive words in the English language. Let’s define the word “Should.” When someone tells you that you “Should” do something their real message is “I want you to do something that benefits me at your expense” For example, if someone tells you that you “Should” send them $1,000.00 to protect the ruby throated jack rabbit. Their real message is “I want you to send me $1,000.00, costing you $1,000.00.” They “win” because you “lose.”
The word “Should” as used in procrastination is the self-talk between our conscious-rational selves telling our subconscious genuine selves that we “Should” be doing something. Thus, when a person allows their conscious self to tell their subconscious self what they “Should” be doing they cannot win. In order for their conscious self to “win” their subconscious self must “lose.”
Kimberley Martinez President, Bonitas International, Englewood, Florida
Our conscious self is governed almost exclusively by OUTSIDE forces. When you let the “Should’s” tell your inner self what it “Should” be doing, you impose outside forces on yourself, but do not know it.
But you can frequently and Subconsciously avoid doing these things your “Shoulds” imposed upon yourself from “Outside” sources, because your genuine Inner “Subconscious self” does not want to do them.
Hence the stresses of procrastination are caused by the unrecognized conflict between what your genuine “Subconscious self” does NOT want to do and what your outside driven conscious self believes “Should” be done.
You Too Can Enjoy And Thrive In A Guilt-Free, Stress-Free NO-Procrastination Zone.
Here are the six (6) easy steps you can take to eliminate procrastination.
(And remove the feelings of guilt and stress that come with it.)
1. The first step to eliminate procrastination is to discover and clarify exactly what your subconscious self really wants to do and not does not want to do. Discover and clarify you own deep priorities, your own self-imposed obstacles (The things you do not want to do) and your passions. Discover and unravel the mystery of yourself.
2. The second step to eliminate procrastination is to replace the word “Should” in all of your own self-talk with the word “Want.” By doing so you eliminate the control of the outside forces and you take control of your choices, and more importantly you avoid the world of procrastination. Go ahead, pick something you normally procrastinate and now tell yourself you want to do it, but on your own terms. Immediately you will feel a sense of relief and control.
Yet, there are just some tasks that you dislike doing that you feel you must perform anyway, because you determined that avoiding them would create worse consequences than actually performing them. Life is full of these.
The four additional steps to eliminate procrastination
by handling undesirable, yet mandatory activities
3. The third step to eliminate procrastination is to discover which activities you dislike performing, whether consciously or subconsciously that you feel must be performed by you. Be sure you really are the best person to perform these activities, knowing that you have a strong distaste for doing so, and that this conflict might reduce your capacity to produce the most favorable results you would want.
4. The fourth step to eliminate procrastination is to create ways to avoid as many of the activities you dislike, that others can perform better, so you do not burden yourself with unnecessary stresses, and self-criticism.
5. The fifth step to eliminate procrastination is to organize the timing and places to perform the activities you do not like but decided you must perform anyway in a manner that best suits your priorities and conditions, to allow you to perform these undesirable activities as quickly and effectively as possible.
6. The sixth step to eliminate procrastination is to celebrate the completion of these must do distasteful tasks every time. Reward yourself with positive events that are associated with their completion, which will enhance your desire to initiate performing them the next time.
The Easiest Way to Eliminate Procrastination Is To Engage A Life Coach
Your life coach will help you unravel the mystery of you. This way you will discover and KNOW the things your subconscious self does NOT want to do. There are 3 reasons your subconscious true self will NOT want to do something. All three reasons are uncovered and clarified by engaging a life coach.
These three reasons are:
1. You may NOT want to do something because you just dislike doing it. This activity would be recognized as one of your chosen “Self Imposed Obstacles,” which you will discover and accept by being coached. No reason needs to be given why you dislike doing something. For example you might dislike cutting the grass. So you can avoid the guilt and stress of procrastination by either having a home without grass to cut or having a lawn service cut the grass for you.
2. You may NOT want to do something because it violates you beliefs and values. The key here is that you must discover and know your true beliefs and values, your integrity and boundary points, which again is easily achieved by engaging a life coach. If your boss instructs you to cheat a customer, your values of honesty and integrity would create a conflict.
Thus, if you KNOW your honesty integrity boundaries you would choose NOT to cheat the customer, but you would not feel the stress or guilt of procrastination, because you chose not to do it. But if you do NOT know your honesty integrity boundaries you might actually feel the sense of procrastination by delaying cheating the customer because your subconscious true self is saying no, but you do not know it.
3. You may NOT want to do something because it violates your own priorities. Once you KNOW your own priorities, through being coached, you can easily select which activities you want to do first to meet your own priority schedule.
For example if your coworkers pressure you to meet after work for several drinks, but you know your first priority is to get home quick to watch your son play in his first baseball game, you can easily eliminate procrastination by following your own priorities to do what you “Want” and going straight home to watch your son.
In another example, I despise submitting my annual IRS tax returns. Yet, I have not felt the guilt of procrastination from dealing with my IRS returns in over 15 years, and I have always met the IRS requirements completely and on time. How? I set up my books so that I can accurately create my annual Profit and Loss numbers for the previous year, very quickly and easily once the calendar year has completed.
I then set aside about 4 hours during the first weekend of January, to organize and verify all of my money transaction during the year to produce my Profit and Loss and cash flow statements. I deliver these records to my chosen CPA soon thereafter, which I celebrate, as I have now completed my chosen part in this distasteful process.