What is a Mid-life Crisis?

Mid Life Crisis occurs at the point in time when people finally realize that the stresses in their work and life have built up to serious levels. This stress is caused by the conflicts between meeting the demands and expectations of others and their own inner priorities, desires, beliefs and or passions. They become torn between continuing in the life they have, (because they don’t want to lose what they have worked so hard to get) and the newly discovered desire to forge a new life that they really don’t understand yet. This leads to frustration and many times, abnormal behaviors, as an escape from the conflicts. People normally reach their own mid life crisis between the ages of 37 to about 52.

If you have experienced similar Mid Life issues, it does not mean anything is wrong with you. Instead, it means that you have finally reached a point where you are no longer participating in the best-fit work and personal life situation for you. In essence, you have drifted into the wrong work and life situation for you. But you don’t know where to turn to fix things and you rarely have the patience, the time, or resources to risk making the wrong choices.

The Riddle of the Mid Life Crisis

The key to overcoming this crisis (or expanding this opportunity) is to discover what makes you tick and redirect your career and life to fit YOUR needs and wants. The Chinese symbol for crisis is the exact same symbol for opportunity. The reason escaping the Mid Life Crisis appears so difficult is because most people do not know themselves well enough to decide what their best new life will be.

Solving the Mid Life Crisis Riddle

Turning your Mid Life Crisis into a much more enjoyable life that will provide excitement, purpose and growth is much easier to achieve today than ever before. The fastest, easiest and most complete way to discover, custom build and transition into your new personally designed new life is to engage a career coach. Career coaching only came on the scene around 1992, and hundreds of thousands of people have converted their mid life crisis into their own ideally suited new lives through engaging a career coach. Why? Because career coaching was created to assist you to find and move into your new ideal income positions that allow you to go to play every day and call it work, and to enjoy and thrive in your personal and family lives at the same time without guilt and without internal conflicts.

How Will Your Career Coach Help You Solve The Mid Life Crisis Riddle?

Your career coach will only focus on YOU to discover the core components within you needed to achieving success in your new life. All five of the core ingredients to discovering, designing and operating in your new life are within you. Yes, your career coach will concentrate only on assisting you to discover and understand all of your passions, priorities, self imposed obstacles, beliefs and values, and your many hidden talents. People became very frustrated by feeling stuck in their lives because they rarely know and understand what, why, and how to design their new life to suit them. They are a mystery onto themselves. A career coach will assist you to unravel that mystery first, so the two of you as a team can custom design and actually obtain your new life on your own terms. You and your career coach will turn the fears and frustrations of your Mid Life Crisis roadblocks into an exciting, fun filled, and prosperous new life, in less time than you think.

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The relationship you have with a true-life coach (or Personal coach, or Career coach, or Business coach, etc.) is like nothing else on this planet. In fact, this relationship is so alien, so special and so liberating that it is hard to understand and even accept at first. But once you do and you feel the powers and joy of this energizing relationship, it is hard to leave it until you have at least completed your coachable goals.

Your life coach will become your special and exclusive partner

You become the absolute Center Of Attention of your life coach. You become the king or queen of your relationship with your life coach. Your life coach will be the only person on this planet to assist and encourage you to discover your real self for the first time in your life. Your life coach will not judge or tell you what to do, so you will get to be whom you really are on your own terms, in total privacy, without others controlling or pressuring you to meet their agendas. Your life coach will make sure you unravel the mystery of you so you become the “World’s Leading Expert On YOU!”  You will gain true clarity about who you really are. You will ascend to a very powerful and liberating place. You will be free to choose between your own true passions, desires and values and those imposed on you by others. And your coach will support whomever you are, so you will accept the truth and be free from confusion and frustration to having the guess all of the time.

Your life coach will also assist you to custom design your own life and career goals (Coachable Goals) on your own terms. Your life coach will assist you to create your future goals that allow you to fulfill your passions and priorities, follow your values, maximize your talents, and avoid as many of your self imposed obstacles as you can. You will develop your future life and career destinations to give your life purpose. You will get off the path of aimlessly wandering through life without a purpose or destinations by transferring to a clear, meaningful, purposeful and very practical life that produces value into the world to fulfill your reason for being alive. Your life coach will also hold you accountable to YOU. So you stay on your own purposeful path to actually achieve your dream goals (Coachable Goals) and not be diverted by the countless forces applied by others.

Your life coach will help you to not only discover the truth about you but to be whomever you really are in a very supportive, energizing, and private place. Think about it. Where else can you become you and also express yourself through your own actions toward your own goals with great practical success, without judgment, without guilt and with complete security?

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The reason you hire a life coach (personal coach, career coach, or business coach) is to COMPLETE your coachable goals. The reason your coach coach’s you is to make darn sure you do achieve your coachable goals. This means you will travel from your present situation to the future place you want to be. Your life coach will assist you to accomplish your coachable goals through three stages. Although these stages are listed in 1. 2. and 3. order, they are frequently intertwined with each other.

The Three Stages of Life Coaching

1. Discovery Stage. Life coaching begins with your life coach assisting you to discover yourself. The discovery stage never ends. Your life coach will ask you questions to get you to open up and reveal things about yourself you have never revealed to any one else in the world, including yourself. Your life coach will reflect back to you the newly discovered things about you in a very objective, clear, nonjudgmental and very confidential manner. So that you will unravel the mystery of yourself through your life coach. Your coach will focus on listening to, discovering and clarifying the five core ingredients that make up who you are and are the key components of your mystery about yourself. You will discover for the first time all of 1. Your Passions, 2. Your Self imposed obstacles, (The things you do NOT like to do) 3. Your Beliefs and Values, 4. Your Talents, and 5. Your Priorities. By discovering these five core ingredients so fast, so clearly, and so completely, you will become the World’s Leading Expert on You.

2. Clarity Stage. You and your coach will act as a team to clarify and define in detail the conditions of your coachable goals to suit you. You will custom design your coachable goals to allow you to fulfill your Passions and Priorities, follow your Beliefs and Values, maximize your Talents, and to avoid as many of your Self Imposed Obstacles as you can. The reason people rarely achieved their coachable goals before life coaching was because they were confused about what they really were. Through life coaching you will be very clear about all aspects of your desired coachable goals because you will create them to suit you only. Clarity of objectives makes it easier to achieve them. For example you will define in detail what it means for you as a business owner to be “successful” and “productive” to meet all 5 of your core ingredients.

3. Action to Completion Stage. You and your coach will work together to determine and complete the best steps you can take to change the conditions around you and improve yourself to reach your goals. Now you and your coach know where you are today, and exactly where you want to move to and why. Your coach will also hold you accountable to you so you will finish these steps to actually achieve your custom made coachable goals. Once you completed these steps and have achieved your now fully defined coachable goals, and you know it, mission accomplished. Your life coach’s job is done.

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A coachable goal is “A future place you want to be, that requires you to grow and improve as a person to achieve it.”

The two key components of coachable goals are:

1. A FUTURE place people choose to reach in the future. Most people want to grow to a better place in their work life, and/or their personal life, and/or their family life. For example, to become a more successful and productive business owner.
2. Achieving coachable goals requires people to discover and learn more about themselves than they ever have in the past. They must unravel the mystery of themselves. And there is no finer personal growth than increased self-awareness.

There are several myths about coachable goals that impede people’s ability to achieve them.

1.The most damaging myth is that coachable goals are just “Too good to be true.” People are constantly told that if it sounds too good to be true, then beware, because it will not happen. Coachable goals were extremely difficult to accomplish until only recently. Thus, they have been “Too Good to Be True” throughout history. This reputation still hangs over “coachable goals”

Coachable Goals are much easier to discover, design and complete than ever before. Because Thomas Leonard created and introduced a brand new human improvement process in 1992, he called “Personal Coaching” that he designed specifically to assist clients to actually achieve their coachable goals. The reason people engage a personal coach (Sometimes called a life coach, career coach and/or business coach) IS to achieve their coachable goals. The reason a personal coach coach’s you is to make darn sure you DO accomplish your coachable goals.

Leonard’s personal coaching process is just as revolutionary and spectacular as the latest smart phone. Think how it would have been “Too good to be true” in 1982 to have and use a smart phone we take for granted today. How could a person back then even think they could use a small hand held device the size of a deck of cards less that ¼ inch in the thickness to talk with anyone, view pictures, and documents from anywhere in the world (The Internet that had not been invented yet), reserve airline tickets or buy a pizza, listen to any music that has ever been recorded, read most all books and publications, including newspapers, watch real time sports and news events, play video games, and find a map with directions to anywhere you want to go, all instantaneously and in color, without having to plug in or connect any wires, and at prices that are very affordable. Yet, like the revolutionary advances in smart phone communications, the personal coaching process has given people the capability to take control of their lives to achieve coachable goals today they could not even conceive before 1992.

2. Another myth is that far too many people focus on HOW they want things to be done, before they even consider their final destinations, their true coachable goals. Yet, without knowing the future destination the paths become immaterial. People will reach a destination when they clearly know where it is, and where they are today to allow the destination to present the best paths to get there. People who connect with the right personal coach will become “The World’s Leading Experts on Themselves.” When people become “The World’s Leading Experts on Themselves” they have the power, the clarity and stress free confidence to discover and define their future goals in detail. Once they discover and create their own personal “coachable goals” the best path to successfully achieving them will become very clear, which is almost always easier and less time consuming than imagined, and they have their own highly motivated and very focused personal coach to keep them on track to change the conditions to actually achieve their coachable goals.

Here are some of the coachable goals that our clients have not only dreamed up, AND completed during the past 12 years through personal coaching. Previously, all of these were considered “Too good to be true.” Today, they completing them can become almost a walk in the park.

1. Become a far more successful and productive business owner
2. Attain life balance where I enjoy and thrive in my personal life, my family life and my work life simultaneously without guilt or stress.
3. Find my ideal income position that allows me to go to play every day, because I love what I do, I produce excellent results because I am very good at performing my profession, and I am handsomely rewarded both financially and otherwise for the great results I generate. Or to actually fulfill the great quote by Confucius who said: “If you love what you do, you will never have to work a day in your life.”
4. Become a far more successful and productive leader and/or manager.
5. Take control of your ADD/ADHD and live a prosperous and enjoyable life by converting your ADD/ADHD into the blessing it really is.
6. Find a new and enjoyable career and continue to be the mother I want to be.
7. Discover, find, and attract my ideal mate.
8. Succeed at becoming a first time manager.
9. Become a far more successful and productive sales person.

Welcome to the world of remarkable coachable goals that are no longer too good to be true.

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Life balance is that place where you enjoy and thrive in all three of your lives simultaneously, without guilt and without internal conflicts.

The three lives you will enjoy and thrive in are:

Your work life. Most of us spend a majority of our time and effort at work. You gain a lot more from work than you recognize. You produce financial rewards, but you also generate many other personal rewards as well. You gain feelings of accomplishment, of belonging, of acceptance, of winning, of competition, of gratitude, of appreciation, of respect, of status, and of contributing.

Your personal life. This involves your personal health, your relationship with a higher being, if at all, your hobbies, and your personal integrity.

Your family life. This involves the relationships you have with the blood relatives you want to keep, and any others you allow inside our inner circle. You are the only gatekeeper to the people you want to let inside your inner circle and how far you will let them in.

You achieve “life balance” when you are able to consciously and subconsciously align your thoughts, your inner soul, and your activities with all three of your lives, one at a time, so you are in the moment for each one, with clarity and confidence. When you are in balance, you experience “being in the zone” of life. You experience virtually NO GUILT, and virtually NO STRESS. As you can imagine, each of these lives will attract your interests and can create various demands on your time, resources, and energy. By KNOWING your own passions, self imposed obstacles, values and priorities, YOU can easily and confidently choose to focus on the life you want at the time you choose, without feeling pressured by outside forces.

The reason life balance is so elusive to so may people is because they do NOT know themselves well enough to generate the conditions that will produce life balance for them. Rarely do people know and understand the real life conditions they will want to generate life balance. In fact, most people would not recognize life balance if it was given to them. Reason. The greatest mystery in the world is ourselves. Most people live in confusion about what they really want, dislike, and their own boundaries. This explains why so many people who have received vast wealth and freedom, still suffer the conflicts and stresses of not having life balance; when, it appears they could easily do so.

The steps to create life balance

You Create conditions of your life to suit YOU that will allow you to fulfill your passions and priorities, follow your beliefs and values, maximize your talents, and avoid as many of your self-imposed obstacles as you can. You adjust the conditions around your to match you. You minimize adjusting and changing yourself to conform to the conditions and expectations imposed on you, unless of course that is what you really love to do. Life balance will not come to you. Will not happen by chance. And cannot be given to you or inherited.

The secret to creating real life balance is to unravel the mystery of yourself first and completely. Once you discover and understand the five core ingredients within you that govern your life, you will have unraveled the mystery of you. These five core ingredients are:

1.Your passions. Everyone has a host of different passions within them, that have been lurking, and waiting to come out all their lives.

2.Your Self-Imposed Obstacles. These are the things you dislike doing. Why is not important and not investigated.

3.Your Beliefs and Values. Some people call this spirituality, as opposed to religion. These are your boundaries, your integrity points.

4.Your talents. Every person on the earth received a bundle of different talents at birth. They have different types, different forms, and different degrees of talents. But few people really know even a small percentage of their real talents.

5.Your priorities. What are the most important things to you in the clear order of first, second, third, etc. Priorities are comparable and the clear rating of them is important.

The fastest and most complete way to achieve life balance
is to engage your own life coach.

The reason you hire a life coach is to actually achieve life balance. The reason your coach coaches’ you is to make darn sure you do. Your coaches’ job is to coach himself or herself out of a job, by assuring that you create life balance on your terms. The life coaching process was designed specifically to assist clients to achieve their coachable goals, and achieving life balance is one of the most popular coachable goals. Many coaching clients have achieved life balance through life coaching much easier and more completely than they thought possible. Achieving life balance can also be done on your own, but it will take lots of time, energy and money. Or you can go straight to real life balance much quicker with a life coach.

How Will Your Life Coach Assist You To Achieve Life balance?

Your life coach will assist you to completely unravel the mystery of YOU. Your life coach will ask you questions to get you to open up and reveal thing to your coach you have never revealed to anyone else in the world, including YOURSELF. You coach will then reflect them back to you, accurately, objectively, clearly, without judgment, without guilt, but with total support, and in total confidence. You will unravel the mystery of you through your life coach. Your life coach will concentrate on assisting you to discover, and understand all FIVE of your core ingredients in a very short and very clear manner. Such that you will discover the truth about yourself to become “The World’s Leading Expert On You.” The life coaching process was designed specifically to accomplish this remarkable goal, and it works very well.

You and your life coach will then design and custom build the conditions of your life that will produce life balance for you. You and your coach operate as a highly focused well oiled team to not only discover the conditions that will produce life balance in great detail, but your coach will also Hold You Accountable to YOU, so you will actually create these conditions to suit you on your terms. Once your have achieved your desirable life balance conditions, your life coach’s job will be complete.

Real life example of creating life balance in just one part of your life.

For example, you might discover through life coaching that you have a real passion to play tennis, a priority to improve your doubles game to play well enough to be invited to play on competitive teams, you have a natural talent to hit a moving ball, you dislike golf, you like to sleep in, and you dislike having to jog to keep your weight down. So you and your coach make the following changes to your life conditions to meet your newly discovered core ingredients. You would cancel your golf membership, join the closest tennis club, sign up for tennis lessons, organize tennis matches at least 3 times a week, and cease your unpleasant early morning jogging routine. You would also most likely determine you most desirable weight to maximize your tennis play, and you would adjust you eating habits along with increased tennis exercise to reach and maintain your desirable tennis weight.

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It has been reported that approximately 84% of all American workers are UNHAPPY in their work. This unhappiness leads to poorer performance, increased stress, fewer rewards, and attitude deterioration at work. Causing personal health and family relationships to also suffer.

Lessons learned from these unhappy work situations:

1. Most people do not choose nor expect to be unhappy in their work careers.
2. Vast majorities of people end up in unhappy work positions because they used either the “Trial And Error” or the “Please Others” work selection processes that virtually guaranteed they would pick very mismatched work positions.
3. Being in mismatched work positions creates the conflicts, stresses and struggles that generate unhappiness.
4. When people try the change work positions or careers to find better matching work positions, they use one of the same two work selection processes that caused the previous mismatched conditions. They eventually discover that they are just as unhappy in their new positions, maybe even unhappier, because of continued mismatching.
5. Eventually, people resign themselves that being unhappy in mismatched positions is their fate. They feel stuck in a rut.
6. Too many people wrongfully blame themselves feeling there must be something wrong with them, and they loose confidence.
7. People come to believe that getting their dream careers is just too good to be true. Normally they are right. Why? Finding and getting their dream positions or careers using the same two work selection processes will continue to be very difficult.
8. More importantly, there is rarely anything wrong with these unhappy workers. They are unhappy because their work positions do NOT MATCH them. Not because they are lazy, unintelligent, defective, or without talent.

Use A Different More Effective “Work Selection Process to get your ideal work positions”

Get Your Ideal Work Positions (Land On The Moon)
by Using The “Career Coach” Work Selection Process

The “Career Coaching” work selection method virtually guarantees that you will get your ideally matched dream work positions every time, because it was designed to do so, when used correctly. The reason you engage a career coach is to actually get your ideal income positions that allow you to play every day and call it work. The reason you career coach coaches you is to make darn sure you do. Your career coach’s job is to coach himself or herself out of a job. The career coaching process is not finished until you, the coaching client, actually enter your personally designed ideal income dream positions, and you know it.

“Career Coaching” appeared on the scene around 1991. Yet it is so different than any other human improvement process or work selection process that it is difficult to understand and even believe. But, once experienced, people understand its value, because it works so well.

The most important ingredient to real “Career Coaching” is the extremely unusual relationship you have with your coach. Your coach will be your equal partner, NOT your superior in any way. You will become the absolute center of attention. You will be the king or queen in your coaching relationship. Your coach will focus totally on you achieving your goals, on your terms, at your pace, to meet your agenda only. I know of no other relationship the even comes close to coaching where YOU are the total center of attention.

Ok, but what happens during the career coaching process to actually connect you with your ideally matched work positions? For simplicity here are the three basic phases of career coaching.

1. Self Discovery. The self-discovery process is the first and most important ingredient and continues throughout the entire career coaching method. The most overlooked fact is that few people would actually recognize their dream career positions in the first place. The reason this is true is because the biggest mystery in the world is OURSELVES. Not knowing what we really want to do, what we really dislike doing, what our real values and boundaries are, what our real talents and priorities are makes it almost impossible to determine our real dream positions.

Your career coach will focus totally on you to ask you questions to get you to open up and reveal things about yourself you have never revealed to anyone else in the world, including yourself. Your coach will then reflect these new revelations about you back to you, objectively, privately, clearly and with NO guilt or judgment. You will unravel the mystery of yourself through your career coach. You will discover the 5 core ingredients about yourself so fast, so cleanly, and so completely, that you will end up becoming “The World’s Leading Expert On You.”

2. Custom build your ideally matched dream positions. You and your career coach will design your ideal income positions in great detail to perfectly match you to allow you to fulfill your passions and priorities, follow your beliefs and values, maximize your talents and avoid as many of your self imposed obstacles (Things you dislike) as you can. That’s right! You create your ideal dream positions so they are guaranteed to perfectly match you from the beginning, and you are very clear on how and why they match. You CREATE AND ADJUST the conditions of your work position to MATCH YOU, as opposed to you adjusting to your work position. What a powerful difference.

3. Actually obtain your ideally match work positions. This phase is normally the easiest and fastest step, and frequently happens so naturally that it is completed before you know it. Your career coach will hold you accountable to YOU so that you execute the steps you feel are best for you to actually get, and be working IN your ideal income positions on your terms, and you know it.

MISSION accomplished!

One of the most important side affects of this career coaching method is that most clients will discover their real purposes in life and pursue them to success. Career Coaching helps people to discover their own purposeful destinations in life to maximize their God Given talents, passions, and integrity to fulfill their purpose in life. My favorite saying is: “A journey without a destination becomes an aimless wandering.” Career coaching helps people discover their own true destinations in life.

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Setting Achievable New Years Resolutions By Embracing The Future

By popular demand we are reprinting an edited version of our New Years Resolution blog.
We hope you enjoy it.

This is the time of year where many people create their list of New Years Resolutions. Yet, how many of your resolutions in 2012 did you achieve? Studies have shown that the average person abandons his or her resolutions within 6 weeks. Setting new years resolutions can be fun, and you will greatly improve your chances of actually accomplishing them if you follow the steps outlined below.

A Journey Without A Destination Becomes An Aimless Wandering

1. Decide first what your most desirable destinations will be for you throughout the year. Include places you want to reach in your career, in your personal life and/or in your family life. For example, you might want to become a more successful and productive leader, you might want to improve your tennis game, or you might want to improve your bonds and relationship with your spouse and/or children, or you might want to improve the value and livability of your home. Normally you might set 1 to about 3 Life Destinations, and they will be long range in nature. But you can always change them or add to them at will.

2. Set Destinations that mean the most to YOU, and will provide YOU immense rewards when completed. Set destinations that give YOU great pleasure and provide YOU wonderful benefits. Do not set destinations because you should or to meet the goals of someone else. Make them YOUR own destinations that have clear purposes for completing them that provide you strong personal rewards. You want to be genuinely passionate about reaching your destinations. For example, you will want to deeply passionate about becoming the leader you always wanted to be, or to achieve the level of tennis your really want, because you enjoy playing tennis so much.

3. Set goals that help advance you towards your desired destinations. These can be your New Years Resolutions if you want. For example setting the goal of achieving a weight between 158 and 165 pounds because this is your ideal weight range to be able to play tennis at your best. You set these goals BECAUSE they achieve intermediate steps along your purposeful life journey towards your most desirable destinations. The clear reasons you have to achieve your chosen weight ranges will provide the strong and continuous motivation to actually reach your intermediate goals. That way when you are alone with a luscious piece of cake (loaded with calories) you will consider the reason you want to reach the 158 pound target, because you want to enjoy your passion for tennis, as more important than the brief pleasure the cake will bring, and you will gladly avoid eating even a bite.

4. Turn your Resolutions into positive-only future goals. Set goals that have a clear point of accomplishment, so you will know when they have been achieved. For example, set the goal of reducing your weight to 158 pounds, as opposed to just losing weight. Or set a goal to have the outside of your home painted to improve its appearance and protect it from the elements.

5. Commit yourself to achieving your goals. If you are not committed to achieving a goal, either change it or drop it. If a goal is not important enough to you to attract your full commitment, it is not worth your bother. Changing the goal to gain your full commitment is much better for you. Dropping a goal because you are not committed is not a failure or a cause to be disappointed. It is a very practical and responsible thing to do. You will release more energy and time to accomplish the more important goals for which you ARE committed to completing. As an example you may decide that dropping your weight to 165 pounds gets you into the right playing shape to excel at tennis, and adjusting your goal accordingly will be the smart thing to do. This way you fulfilled your real destination to improve your tennis.

6. Separate the goals into two groups, Internal and External

Internal Goals includes goals that require you to improve and grow as a person to achieve them. They require you to focus internally on you to become far more self aware of your passions, priorities, talents, integrity and dislikes. Lowering your weight level of 158 pounds, or to become the leader you have always wanted to be are the goals that will be much easier to achieve than you think, once you have discovered your true inner motivations and inner limiting conditions. You will grow exponentially as you discover your own true passions and priorities, your own integrity points, your own hidden talents and the things you dislike doing. As an example, once you discover how passionate you are about improving your tennis game your strength of purpose to drop your weight will drive you to achieve that goal. Or once you discover how much you want to regain your health and enjoy your family and your personal hobbies (like tennis), you will be able to create new conditions that will allow you to fulfill your goals. Goals achieved!

External Goals includes goals that do not require you to improve or grow as a person to achieve them. These are externally completed activities. Some examples would be to improve your serve, or have your house painted. With these goals, you engage others to perform the activities for you, and involve information that is external to you. For example you might want to hire a tennis pro to teach you how to improve your serve, but of course you will want to practice your newly learned serve on your own to get it right for you. Or you might engage a painter to paint your house, so you will save the money needed to have some one else complete this goal for you.

7. Connect with someone you trust to assist you to complete your Internal Goals. Growing and improving as a person is not a self-help process. Although the huge “Self-Help” industry would claim otherwise. You will need assistance. Unraveling the mystery of you requires you to connect with someone, who is trained, experienced and dedicated to assisting you to discover and reveal you to you, with total objectively, without any manipulation and with complete confidentiality. You will want this person to be your partner, to care enough about you to be very honest and trustworthy, to keep you accountable, and to assist you to accomplish your Internal Goals. One of the best sources for connecting with the right person to assist you to accomplish your Internal Goals is to find your ideal life coach.

8. Consider getting experts to accomplish your External Goals. Since you are not required to change or improve as a person to accomplish these goals, you can have experts accomplish them for you, and they will probably complete them better than you would. Picking the right people and conditions of achieving these goals will be your focus, and once done, goals achieved! For example to have the house painted, consider hiring an expert house painter to paint it for you.

9. Personally celebrate the achievement of each goal. Rejoice with someone who cares about you and who understands the importance of each goal. Do so immediately when the goal has been completed. For example, celebrate reaching 158 pounds or your final chosen weight, with someone who understands what it meant to you. Celebrate the painting of your house, even though it was done by your expert house painter.

10. Add new goals to your list. You will want to add new goals (resolutions) as you complete old ones, or you will want to adjust the ones you have to meet new circumstances. You will achieve your goals much faster and more completely as you get into the hang of the above steps. It is critical that you create newer, more important and more valuable goals on a continuous basis. By creating new and more valuable and more exciting goals you continue your successful life journey towards your chosen destinations in your life to give it meaning, purpose, and fun. You will be celebrating your feelings of accomplishment, your successes, more frequently and these successes will create the culture and attitude of more successes. Do not wait until the beginning of each year to plot and achieve your most important achievements? Make goal settings and achievements a year round successful and enjoyable process.

Have fun with your New Years Resolutions and enjoy the rewards of actually achieving them.

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Google. or someone claiming to be with Google has been making threatening phone calls.

Lately, my business phone line has received 4 demanding phone calls for people and recordings claiming to be with Google. Their demands and threats have escalated with each call. The third call was a voiced recording “Threatening to de-list my web site on Google” unless I comply with recorded instructions. I hung up before I heard the instructions. I operate at least 3 different web sites under 3 different business entities. None of the 4 calls identified the website to be de-listed by Google. Is Google now resorting to monopolistic intimidation tactics to threaten and control web site publishers? Or is this some elaborate SCAM being perpetrated using Google’s name? In light of the many SCAMS’ being pulled off in the Northeast after Sandy by people claiming to be Firemen, Insurance adjustors, and government security agents to gain access to loot properties, I am very wary.

The first call was from a person who claimed to be from Google, whom I could not understand. I think he (or she) demanded I provide the physical address of our business. Since our businesses can easily have over 50-85 different business addresses, and I was concerned about the intentions and authenticity of the caller, I asked which State the caller wanted an address for? I was unable to understand the responses, and felt this person was questionable, so I hung up.

The second call came from a more aggressive female claiming to be with Google whom I could understand. She demanded the address for our website, and I asked which web site? She did not provide me with a website URL, but just re-demanded an address. Because she would not answer my simple question, and because of her demeaning entitled tone, I did not give an address.

The third very threatening recorded call disturbed me enough to write this blog. I got the phone number from my caller ID and it was 800-927-6152. I called this number and received a recording to press 1 for an agent, or 2 to be put on do not call. I did neither.

I received the fourth call while writing this blog. It was also a recording. I confirmed that 503-457-1403 shown on my caller ID was a disconnected number. The recording claimed to be with Google Local Plus and that our website (no specific URL) was not listed and was missing local businesses. The recording instructed me to press 1 to talk with a “Certified Marketing Specialist” who will get our website placed on the top pages of Google, Yahoo, and Bing, and tell me how I might qualify for a “custom web site.”

Ok, I think I get it. Some Scammer claiming to be with Google, or Google Plus using a fake disconnected phone number, will get my (Unknown) web site placed on the top pages of Google, Yahoo and Bing. Now they represent all 3-search engines. And to top it off I can even qualify for a brand new custom web site.

Conclusion: this is a SCAM.

I hope to have some fun with the next caller.

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How do you know when you are in love with your job? Here’s an example: Katie is a joyful little dog who lives next door. When her owner opens the door, so she can go out in the yard, she springs into action – suddenly she’s a racehorse – running like the wind, deliriously happy and focused on her sudden freedom…chasing squirrels and bouncing in piles of leaves! I know what she’s thinking – “I can do what I want and nobody can stop me!” Truly, I’m not sure if I’ve ever witnessed such sublime happiness…it’s an awesome sight!

Wouldn’t it be awesome if we could feel like that about our job? I mean you’re at work sometimes more than you’re at home, you communicate all day long with people you didn’t even know before you got hired and you are getting paid to do something – do you love it? So, I ask you again – how do you know when you are in love with your job – or not? Do you hit the snooze button 32 times before rising? Do call in sick when you’re not? Have you ever driven to work in the morning, thinking “Weekend, hurry up!” Do you hate Monday’s?

Are you underpaid, underappreciated AND overworked all at the same time? These are only some of the signs that you may not be in the right career for you….and…that you may not be joyfully jumping through piles of leaves , which also leads me to believe that you may not be in love with your job.

But you’re thinking, “I can’t afford to walk away from my job, I’ve got bills, a mortgage, a college loan, and a family!” Right? But there is one thing that you can do now. This one thing will help you get to your career goals faster than any other improvement process and you can do this while you are still working in your current position – so no no-one has to know that you are on the road to achieving your dream job, but you.

Hire a career coach.

Sometimes people ask me “what’s the cost to hire a coach” The question I’d like to ask is “what’s the cost to NOT hire a coach? Let’s say you are in a job you hate, you: Feel stressed driving to work and then feel stressed, all day, then you drive home a bundle of nerves. You feel unfulfilled at your job, unappreciated and your paycheck’s a joke. You often wonder what would be your best career match – because the job you have now, simply pays the bills and nothing more. You can’t wait for the freedom of the weekend and you feel sick to your stomach when Monday rolls around! How long can you afford to work like this? I hope you have great health care coverage!

But you may ask? “Hire someone? No way, I can just find a better job on my own.” Ok sure, go ahead. I wonder though, how many jobs have you had in your adult working life that you’ve been absolutely been over the moon about? If your answer is “none”, then the odds that you will land your perfect & ideal work situation this time is…well…pretty slim.

A coach does several things that you cannot do for yourself, which are worth your time, effort and even your money. Your career coach will be your partner and act like your mirror. Why is this important? Because in order for the coach to assist you in getting to your goals, they will ask you questions to get you to open up & reveal things about yourself that you’ve not shared before and/or you may not even know about yourself right now.

A coach not only listens to what you do say, but also to what you don’t say – again, very important. Then they reflect back to you your priorities, talents, passions, values and obstacles in a clear & objective manner. They will also hold you accountable and keep you on track to achieving your goals.

A friend or family member cannot be your coach. Why? Think about it, friends and family members – although they mean well, don’t ask you who you are…they usually tell you who they think you are. How is that going to help you grow and improve as a person? Besides, a professional career coach comes to the partnership with you, armed with a virtual toolbox of experience and techniques, all geared to unlock the real you so that you can become “The World’s Leading Expert on You!”

Hiring a career coach is quickest way for you to feel like “I can do what I want and nobody can stop me!” Just like little Katy does, every day…“I can do what I want and nobody can stop me!” You felt that way as a kid, don’t you want that feeling back? But, I must warn you – once you see how a coach can help you achieve your career goals, you will want to hire a coach for all your goals!

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Retirement Coaches Are Not Even Similar To Financial Advisers!

Financial advisers focus exclusively on the financial state of their clients.
They provide expert advice to their clients on how to manage and/or increase their financial wealth and conditions. Sometimes they provide this advice for free. But, they also Sell many different financial packages that are supposed to improve the financial wealth of their clients. But financial advisers receive commissions and such from the sale of these financial packages. Financial advisers Tell their clients, they Sell to their clients and they Make personal income off the assets of their clients.

Financial planners direct clients to spend their money to generate income for the planners.
They gain the trust of clients to get control or access to the hard earned assets and wealth of their clients. They then move these assets into other forms to supposedly improve the wealth position of their clients. They profit from the sale or transformation of the assets of their clients. But the financial planners have two contradictory motivations. Sell products and advise clients to best serve the clients or sell products and advise clients to best serve income production for the planners? Which is it? And planners insist on full trust to invest and manage the assets of their clients with these contradictory goals.

Using a financial planner can work.
When used right, financial planners can help people manage, protect and grow their monetary wealth in many ways. The specialized world of money, investments, capital, taxation and such is overwhelming. The stakes are very high for anyone with wealth. But the key is to know the assets you have and to be very clear about your real retirement goals. Then you can find, and evaluate financial planners who will best advance your wealth to meet your personal retirement objectives.

Retirement coaches have Only one goal-the success of their clients.

Retirement coaches concentrate on assisting their clients to discover and define the most important aspects of life.
Coaches only focus on assisting their clients to discover, design and obtain their ideal retirement life and/or career.  Coaches ask clients questions to discover themselves so the clients become the “World’s Leading Expert on Themselves.” Coached clients take charge of their lives by becoming very clear about their hidden inner passions, priorities, talents and values.  The only agenda that matters, is the clients’ agenda.  Coaches perform none of the actions and have none of the motivations that financial planners do. Coaches do not advise, do not sell, and do not make any other income off their clients.

Retirement coaching is very practical and effective.
Coaches assist their client to apply the newly discovered information about them to organize their retirement life only the way the client wants it. Clients will create the conditions of their retirement that best suit them on their terms. Together, as a well-oiled and strongly motivated team, clients and their retirement coaches will then implement the conditions to begin their ideal retirement on their terms.

Hiring A Retirement Coach Before Hiring A Financial Planner Produces Better Results

Defining your ideal retirement life in detail with your retirement coach clarifies your objectives.
Once you know the desired conditions of your new retirement life, you can engage a financial planner to help you organize your finances and assets to fully enjoy and thrive during your retirement.

The same person cannot provide both services.
The objectives, the incentives, the expertise and the relationship with clients of the two are far too different to be provided by just one person. Confusion and frustration will be generated early on to produce very poor results. But used separately and correctly in both instances, great things will happen. Bottom line: Know the many huge differences between a retirement coach and financial adviser. Engage a coach for one thing, and a financial adviser for something else. But do not engage the same person to do both.

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